ok, that seemed to have been the problem

was still using darkcoin.conf in the directory file instead of masternode.conf
k, didnt know that the masternodeprivkey wasn't supposed to be shared. dont know what they can do with it..?
its not like this is my privkey for my coins

It could be used to update the masternode data or to stop it. You will not lose coins indeed, but potentially lose control of the masternode.