after a lot of testing and coding and doing today with d57heinz and xSpooky i am afraid that the core code of the coin is so messed up that my best trow at it is to hard fork the coin with a complete new codebase. as the dev is unwilling or unable to fix the code so we don't fork all the time.
i don't want to spend another day trying to do the dev's job unless community is behind it. So best is to see what all others say about it.
i am in, since there is no other way