This is so risky, if one of the chain will be abbandone you will lose all your coin 
and this why all the community is worried (it is only a question of money, and it is really a tall order for gavin).
and this why all the community is worried (it is only a question of money, and it is really a tall order for gavin).Risky for people who are moving coins around (obviously bad for Bitcoin)
but not risky if you are holding coins and have them on both chains, right?
In this scenario we will have Chain A (Bitcoin Core) , Chain B (Bitcoin-Xt). If you had 10 BTC on Chain A, you will have 10 BTC on Chain B.
If Chain A dies and Chain B stays alive you don't lose coins. Even if it comes to this, the only risk is the loss of confidence and potential death of both networks. There is no risk if only 1 network dies.
you do not understand, there is no need for consensus on a mandatory update, gavin knows it, everyone knows it, just release it and stop this no-sense fud
If there are better solutions that have been proposed then the update is definitely not mandatory. Even though I agree on the increase of the block size, I do not agree with Gavin forcing it. If the developers don't agree then it should wait.