Unfortunately some opinions don't matter. Neither do I have the influence or power here to change much and by the time I start committing to the Core I'm not even sure that it will exist. That statement was just showing that we can't blame either side or everything. Both parties have hidden agendas. Unfortunately most people are very greedy and complicated, including these developers and thus the situation has arisen.
Nonsense like this is what I'm trying to prevent, but it seems futile..

What I would prefer:
It is a fact that the blocks are eventually going to get filled with transactions and that some aren't going to get included. Keeping it like that would be horrible as rich people would be able to prioritize transactions (completely against Bitcoin). Something has to be done in order to prevent this rather than to fix it once it happens. They also have to properly explain the problems with XT. Which patches and exactly why have they been rejected.

The developers need to show potential and better (elaborate why) solutions to the 1MB cap and implement it on time into the Core. This would be a substitute to the what Gavin wants and should theoretically work better than just increasing the cap. Gavin needs to stop with this XT nonsense, because no good will come of it. This only has a potential negative effect on the whole ecosystem, as I fail to see any potential positive ones.
Feel free to correct me.