seems like you are right...i have seen now that my last block was 2days ago which was sync by my wallet...as you can see here
http://imgur.com/3Cx1K0zi will try to sync todays whole night and tomorrow i will posts whatever the results are... thank you for helping

Thank you for trying to use Bither as your wallet. I'm one of the developers. I can see you are already on the right track. If you have any further questions, feel free to ask me. We will try to increase the sync speed in the next version.