I suppose by that argument the Russian revolution (to use one of countless examples) was, by definition, not a 'hostile' fork since it was democratic.
In any conflict, once the first shot is fired all involved parties are are appropriately labeled 'belligerents'. As to who 'started it', that is left to the history books and these are, as they say, 'written by the victors.'
The fundemental error here is failing to recognize the voluntary nature of currency adoption.
Gavin proposed a change to Bitcoin that users are free to accept or decline.
The point being made is that if Bitcoin is controlled by politics, then it is no longer decentralized thus
. The solution to the Bzyantine's Generals Problem is useless, if politics can subvert it. Which is
.