Wallet staking is getting lots of 1000's and confirming but my total is not increasing.
me too

It could be possible your both in normal PoS and are seeing orphan blocks; most likely staking normal PoS + Masternode. Start over; have staking=0 in the conf file, then make a new masternode address and privkey then send 20k to that address. So just remove just the privkey line from the conf, then open the wallet, create new node, then add the new privkey to the conf where the old one used to be, reopen+begin
Thanks, but I'm just an ordinary wallet holder with coins not a masternode and the rest is greek to me. I mined, I bought and holding in an average wallet.