To sum it up can we just get this over and done with?
Not really. Whatever change is made it needs to really be discussed and not everyone will be happy about it... There will always be discussion.
I've seen a lot of discussion, but I haven't really seen any good reason
not to increase the block size. That seems completely out the question if bitcoin is ever to become useful for transferring value. A more robust network (more users, more transactions) should be something sought after and planned for. So we need to deal with it.