BIPs 100-104 demonstrate the devs have not been sitting on their hands. Please calm down and stop exaggerating.
The debate is technical, regardless of your desire to make it a popularity contest:
At this point, the debate is no longer technical. The consensus is generally to raise the block size, as shown by BIPs 100-104. The problem I see is the way to do so which is more political. It is basically a contest between which BIP will actually get used. Of course, XT has a head start since it already has an implementation while I have not yet seen any implementation of the other BIPs.