This can't be done unfortunately
Sorry forgot to point out... he wanted it sent as gift/friend/family.... so i failed on that part!
I thought that the reason he asked this was to be a way of him avoiding the fee which is why i went ahead with that option!
I think in future its probably best that if i am asked to send as gift to not send as gift but to send as 'goods' cos that way you are protected as a buyer.