I'm confused, first you make a thread saying you don't want to democracy but then you turn around and create one arguing that we must find a way to vote?
You're making this more complicated than it really is. Stop trying to "fix" Bitcoin as it is perfectly fine as it is. Achieving consensus should be hard and some "vote theater" is not gonna help it. Just be patient and stop believing the alarmists.
You are erroneously equating democracy with voting. Voting =/= Democracy.
When I say we don't want a democracy, I mean we don't want a majority rule where 51% is all it takes to win and then we have 49% unhappy and disappointed people. This kind of system will rip bitcoin in two.
Instead we should have a Consensus Building Process by which we gradually mold the proposals until we arrive at 95%+ approval. There are several different ways of doing this and this has been done several times in Bitcoin's history already, but all of them involve voting.
The Major difference is that with a Consensus Building Process people need the ability to change their votes, in a democracy you vote once and then that's it, you can't change your mind.
With a Consensus Building Process the proposals are tweaked and amended according to critiques and concerns of the voters until there emerges a proposal that is good enough to reach 75%+ votes. In a democracy the choices are static, and you just vote on the choices presented which do not change, and are often all poor solutions.
In both scenarios there is voting. In one scenario there are winners and losers, and in the other we are all winners.
Votes can be cheated, gamed, bought. I personally don't believe they're a good and transparent way of achieving consensus.