I'm thinking out loud here, but does the escrow necessarily need to be a third party?
Yes, an escrow should be a third party.
If you wanted to trade with a high ranking member for the security/trust/privilege it provides,
trade with them directly. Why pretend to have a third party?
so as someone else asked, why the double standard? leave neg on one but not the other. I'm sure others are wondering the same thing.
sorry about starting to get off topic now.