Do you know what a third-party is?
Yes I do, and you quoted what I said out of context. I said that some SPV wallets can connect to full nodes which can be put up by anyone in a decentralized fashion. I also argued that relying on layer two protocols would translate into much greater reliance on third parties especially with increased adoption and limited blocksize space.
SPV wallets connecting to full nodes = third party risk. no amount of spinning can get you out of this.
Layer two protocols like Lightning rely on no third-party custody therefore you don't have to trust anyone with you money to use them.