Since you brought up that point in my service thread too i will repeat what i wrote you in your thread.

You should not sit before the screen and await everything happening in an instant. Most trades happen over days because one or more involved parties are not online all the time.

In your case the seller did not show up and we had to wait. Normally iam online a couple of times a day but not always, because weekend and i'm still in hospital and so on. Most other big escrows only show up daily, if not less than daily in the forum.

If a trade can be done instantly because all parties are there then i will do that, but your seller left and it was not clear when he will be back.

Anyway, your bitcoins are refunded and the scammer got his red trust because he minutes after i posted in your thread that i accept your request for refund and will send your coins back, and hours after you cancelled the deal and told him to not send, that he send and that i should send him the bitcoins.