So any idea why my wallet balance went from 55+ MFLAP to 0.00013555709161 MFLAP.
All the transactions that add up to the 55+ show up in the ledger

Are you looking at this from inside your wallet? I'd say it is because they are currently staking, if you want to prevent this you can encrypt your wallet (however you won't earn any coins unless you unlock it for a while). If your not looking at it from inside your wallet I'd say open it and check the staking balance.
I shut everything down and restarted the wallet, balance and stake at 0, unconfirmed still at 0.00013555709161 MFLAP