It's a hard lesson. Sorry for your loss, OP. Normally, there should be no reason for the Bitmixer guys being assholes, but if they decide to, there's little to nothing you can do.

I'm sorry if this comes out as rude, but in Bitmixer's shoes, I'd do the same thing they did, and wouldn't feel guilty, or like I'm scamming you.
I'm sorry if this comes out as rude, but if I knew who you are, I would want nothing to do with you. You are the kind of person that delights in taking advantage of another's misfortune. If someone accidentally overpaid you, you would keep it. If a guest accidentally left something valuable at your house, you would keep it. If a friend (assuming you have one) accidentally disclosed a private key, you would spend all of their bitcoins. But you don't care because you are a guilt-free non-scamming scumbag asshole.