Other answers later. If you have links to help me to understand your position, I'd appreciate it (instead of looking through youtube and randomly looking at presentations)
Here is the
video that I watched (multiple times). The slide was from this presentation: Mark Friedenbach - Alternatives to a Block Size Limit as a Rate-Limiter for Validator Resource Consumption for Consideration.
This sentiment unsettles me. This all or nothing attitude is defeatist.
I dislike it as well.
Bitcoin will be dead. Regardless of block size.
It will not.