I'm not on either of your sides here, but I didn't read all of this either.  TL.

BARR is an interesting concept, but it doesn't surprise me that this guy who's running it can become a cocksucker very quickly when dealing with shitcoin devs.  Or anyone for that matter.  It's probably a sweeping generalization here, but my guess is that most people in the cryptocurrency have a little of the 'angry white man' syndrome, especially when dealing with other angry white men.