i reseted the blockchain and transactions (reseted from date of first transaction).
the faulty transaction that hasn't been confirmed is nowhere to be seen anymore. all i see is 2 incoming transactions from november 2013 of around 3.3.8 BTC.

however the balance of my the wallet now says 0.0001 BTC and that really freaks me out... i mean how can this be when there are only incoming and no outgoing transactions? oh man.....