consensual forks are not scary. orphans take over the minority, and thats the point. thats what the consensus mechanism is all about.
its the doomsday of intentional splits (like ethereum intentionally split) which is a separate thing, called controversial, which are scary.

no one is saying we should logically do a controversial split. apart from the core fanboys who veto a consensual agreement, and by this are saying the only way to increase the capacity buffer is to split.. simply with their veto power

all because they dont want increased capacity, and are telling people how scary controversial splits are because they themselves fear consensual capacity increases as it will de-incentivise the (heavily invested corporate) need to go offchain