So I think I transferred all my ARDR without NXT and it just disappeared. Fuck me
That would be completely ridiculous if after you transfer your ARDR to an exchange without having any NXT in your wallet that it'd just be gone. How do the devs expect the general public to do anything with NXT or ARDR if these kinds of things happen, or if there's no thorough documentation out there? Ridiculous. I hope you haven't lost your ARDR.
It sounds more like a misunderstanding than anything else. Why the outrage? It's not complicated at all.