i dont want to "block scaling via segwit"
i just dont want core to block scaling via block size

I believe the miners can be trusted with blocksize limit, partly because of their incentive to keep blocks small enough to propagate fast, and also their  (  very real ) incentive to make sure users are happy with them.
a vote for segwit, feels like a vote for locking ourselves in a 1MB block size FOREVER, because once we have LN, core devs will say things like " the settlement layer must remain DECENTRALIZED, if you have a problem with the 10$ fees go learn how to use LN, you dumb users that can hardly turn on a computer!" and then the users will just go join a altcoin without this self imposed requirements.
core devs believe the LN is the will be the be all end all scaling solution, i dont, and i dont want to give them the chance to continue to block the long overdue block size incress

I am not "pro fork"
i'm just not going to pretend that a hard forks are evil

sometime cores act like users are going to lose funds because the user didnt upgrade in time.
what is more dangerous?
user wakes up, none of his TX are getting threw, he goes online and finds out there was a HF and he must upgrade
OR
user wakes up, everything APPEARS to work fine, and unknown to him a softfork has been activated.