"Create a backup of your wallet before you do ANYTHING else. Store that backup in a safe place. If you do not have a good backup of your wallet, YOU SHOULD NOT BE USING YOUR WALLET AT ALL!
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I have a copy/backup from November 6.
"Other options are to remove the transaction from your wallet and re-send it with a higher fee, or contact a mining pool and offer to pay them to confirm it for you."
Problem, it's not possible to remove the transaksjon from wallet, as I told before.
It is possible to remove the transaction from the wallet. This has been explained to you four times already.
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here). The bitcoins will return to your wallet and you'll be able to resend.
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"Abandon transaction" is grey.
Second method then.
Use zapwallettxes.
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It will delete all of your transaction and do a rescan (your confirmed transactions will show up again after rescan).
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zap it.
You expressed concern about "destroying your wallet":
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I'm afraid to use that. Maybe it will destroy the wallet.
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But, if you have good backups of your wallet stored in a safe place, then why do you care if it destroys your wallet? It won't, but even if it somehow does, you can just replace it from the backup.