You didnt pay enough in fees, what do you expect, pay the proper fee and you will get a quick confirmation, its not rocket science.  Look at the small fee as the price of Banking freedom,  owning your own money.

or just go back to the main stream banking cartel, where your money is only yours because they say it is, were they ask you how did you get it, who you sending it to and why.  ever tried withdrawing a large sum of cash from a bank..... nightmare, they simply wont let you and its only going to get worse.