My balance is shown in the ICO page and how do I request a payout?
click payout button
And where does that go and how do I get it?
to the address that is derived from your passphrase
when wallets are out, you put the same passphrase in the wallet
alternatively, you can specify an external address and it will be sent to that address. that would be for after exchanges support KMD deposits
you could also just use the unix commandline sendtoaddress if you run komodod