Yes, I read the whole thread and the whole community judged that you were in the wrong.  You jerked us all around, sometimes saying you were going to pay, then not, and you made an ass out of yourself with comments like the above.

That's fine by me, I've got enough people to look after in real life.  But sometimes they need the brutally honest treatment, too.  It doesn't help anyone if you let addicts and alcoholics repeat the same toxic behavior.  If you think that's judging, or throwing stones from a glass house, so be it.