It's a extremely tricky situation. I wish that we could at least get segwit, then LN. But even after we get LN, we would need eventual blocksize increases, otherwise optionally doing onchain transactions would be impossible, and LN functionality itself I assume would suffer eventually, without said blocksize increase.
Indeed. I think part of the problem is that despite all the noise, everyone with influence is still too fat and comfortable to be pushed to action. Exchanges are still coining it, miners certainly are, Core can point to things working perfectly.
The only people who may not be so content are the users and by the time they make themselves properly known they might be permanently shopping elsewhere.