I do have issue when someone steals from me under threat of being kidnapped and imprisoned. That part people seem to gloss over as a necessary evil to get all of those free goodies.
Ah, the impeccable logic of a seventeen year-old. But you see, lots of people stay outside society. They are not kidnapped and brought back en masse. So that reasoning falls already on the premises.
True, you can't pick and choose. You can't go "I want this road, but not that one - heart surgery but not hand surgery" which would be a great deal more bureaucratic and expensive. That why we go with a baseline instead, which is indeed remarkably different across societies and leaves plenty of room for arguments, but all civilizations has had one and for a very good reason.
Logic.