Ideally the users should be choosing direction, the people paying and using the coin network for whatever purpose can decide and however it relates to the fee cost for them and so on ?
  I always thought that was a mistake bitcoin was making, I dont blame the various people, their egos, views or actions even but if the network becomes centralised to just one point of failure it suggests the inevitable breakdown and problems that beset modern FIAT ?  

Some people in Venezuela are literally going to starve to death because the only money left of the businesses they used to run are kept in bitcoin and the network is failing their requirement to live.  I wont say the people at the top dont care but they dont feel the pain of their actions certainly