The proccess running error is because after installing parity it auto runs in the background.

The parity signer: pending window flashing over and over was a problem with internet explorer.
Use Google Chrome

When switching to google chrome it asked me to type some code and put in a token something....
I did not understand that. A workaround is just making google chrome your default browser.

Anyway, I got it up and running and I can now send eth at ico start block!!!!
Getting the timing correct.... That is a discussion for some other thread.... Ahhhhh.