went again, started up again.
I will solve this, if anyone knows any tips with iquidus, please say.
It will likely lag again, so I will take a new, higher RAM package later (it is 5.07 am where I live), but also put up an rpc script so you have a reliable check. In the meantime, check your wallet via debug, which will be reliable.
Very annoying, but hopefully the extra RAM will solve the issue.