Do you consider that to be an inevitable trade off?

The trade off I am more inclined to be concerned about, is quality of life vs quantity. That is the message I got from the OP and nothing about it suggested hating humanity IMHO.

There are two directions that a population can take towards declining quality of life (or even extinction). Choosing to breed uncontrollably or not at all, tend towards the same result. Sustainability would be achieving some balance between the two extremes.