My experience is that most engineers at tech companies, and especially staff engineers, don't need to put up with that non-sense.  Nor do competent managers need to or wish to create such an environment.  In a reasonably well functioning environment everyone knows what needs to be done, when, and why.  Everyone trusts that the other persons are doing their best so there is not a lot of haranguing.  Most of "You done yet?  No, go fuck yourself!" banter is of a joking nature and is usually a lot of fun.  I've worked primarily with start-ups though.  Some were successful and some not so much.  Even large companies can function with the same mentality but I suspect that it is less common.