Do you run an escort service?
Reading your post was very interesting to me...I've been trying to come up with what your business could possibly be and that's the best I can do.
Bitcoins would seem like the ultimate currency for this industry for many of the reasons you describe.
edit: Hovered over your link thing or whatever...New York Fetish Fortress. Nice. Not really my thing but yeah, I can see where bitcoins would create a nice intermediary, removing alot of the calousness of cash.