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I got a dummy hdmi plug. So far my VEGA 64s have not needed one. They always run fine monitor or not.
While xmr-stak-amd was mining I plugged a dummy plug into one of the two problematic cards. Everything froze, screen went black, flickered a bit, then came back. xmr-stak-amd looked stalled but eventually came back to life.
Check hash rates. The one card I plugged the dummy plug into was hashing at 1900H but only for ~10sec!! Then it dropped back down.
So, I figure lets reboot with the hdmi dummy plug connected from the start. If I do this, I cannot enable HBCC on any card as the machine always crashes.
So the best I can get now is to get everything all setup for 1900H (clock speeds, HBCC toggled). Then once xmr-stak is running I can shove a dummy plug into a card hashing low and get ~10s of 1900H before it drops down to 1300H.