Not possible with the details you mentioned.
You need the 12 word recovery passphrase that you generated when you made your account.
Do you have a backup of you wallet in your email?
im not sure i made backup words it was 2013 but i see i need it if i want to Recover my funds .
i need to access to my wallet again
Sorry, but as Aura already mentioned you can only recover your password by entering the 12 word recovery passphrase, otherwise it is not possible.
is this any way to get this "12 word recovery passphrase" if not remember ?
2) what about private key
You don't have a 12 word recovery phrase. That was added 2015 and onwards I think, and if you made a wallet before then they can't back-date it.
Do you mean that you have your private key or you want to access it? If you have it, then just make a new account and import it into that.
If you don't have the private key or recovery phrase, unless your password was simple, accept that your coins are probably gone...