Now you are just being a rude son of a bitch (not a troll).
I would have been rude if I was lying to have someone really close to me died recently.
But since it really happened, and you feel sorry for Gavin, but not at all for me and my mom, then I can only tell you back: fuck you!
Still, the code does not care about who died and someone has to take the stake and develop it further in the right direction.
You are an asshole. Gavin was offering a way for people who actually care about this issue to present the various arguments in a useful way AND giving a reason why he can't do it right now. It wasn't an excuse, it was Gavin being his usual pragmatic self.
Gavin my thoughts are with you and your family.