I don't like change but I think what bitcoin really needs modernization. The transaction rate must be increased, the transaction cost should be reduced. Each user should be able to mine bitcoins and carry out transactions. Only in such circumstances, bitcoin may remain independent. Unfortunately users do not have the right to vote.
I did see what you are trying to tell there, mining your own transaction to be send or receive by anyone is indeed great. Change is inevitable in this modern world though if you try to stay in what you used to be then the world will not adjust for you, people have no choice if they think they are and if they don't want something they must not use it anymore instead find another great technology that will cater your wants and I think that is the purpose of some Altcoins out there.