Well, I didn't expect that kind of shit storm but I can understand your mistrust.
Only three people successfully working on an ASIC doesn't sound very authentic especially considering the costs you have in mind but I think this widely overestimated. I was suprised too that this worked out that well in only one year, but I really don't know what went wrong at BFL and friends. We largely used existing hardware and just assembled it in the right way. Some parts we had to design our selves of cause but this was and still is not a million dollar effort.
And we are talking about "ASIC proof" scrypt algortihm here. In my oppinion the memory related design made it even more easy to build an ASIC because you don't need a extreamly high specialized computing section but the right memory and this is what we've been working on.

Maybe this is not a ASIC in the sence that we placed every single transistor on our own but we assembled something that is definitely specialized on scrypt mining with useable success, so this can't be called a FGPA either.

I agree all this looks quite unorgnized at the moment. And you are right that we didn't prepare a bullet proof launch of all this but please give us some time to provide enough information before labelling us as scammers.
Nobody forces you to donate right away if you have doubts. Just wait before complaining about somethin you have no conception of yet.