You don't get it. People not paying sufficient fees according to the network situation, and thus have to wait a good while for their first confirmation, means that Bitcoin isn't working as it should. That's the general logic people seem to thrive on. If you pay appropriate fees according to the network situation, you'll never experience any delays or whatever. I have never had to experience any delays or other inconvienences due to filled mempools. I just pay what's needed to get a quick first confirmation. If you follow that path, it's like these "problems" don't even exist.