So what is the solution for me to get out of this, I'm ready to pay as high as $75 to anybody that can get this sorted out for me
The sending party should stop broadcasting this transaction, and do it again after increasing the fee.
There are commercial parties offering paid accelerators,
https://pushtx.btc.com/#/ charges $301.64,
https://pool.viabtc.com/tools/txaccelerator/ charges 0.02555
BTC. That's too expensive for this transaction, but it's "normal" rates now for this service.