Its been several hours and I still have zero connections, I have another POS wallet, that is staking correctly on the same system. There is no way grim.conf is case sensitive? and should be Grim.conf?
I'm half asleep, so I might have mixed something up. Backup wallet and place it somewhere safe before proceeding
1. Copied my wallet file from within AppData\Roaming\Grim folder and place it somewhere else temporarily
2. delete the grim folder in AppData\Roaming\
3. delete the grim app
4. Install new and improved grim app version 1.2
5. Close the new grim app
6. Open AppData\Roaming\Grim\Grim.conf file with notepad and add addnode=45.32.195.56:24861 and then save and close
7. Place Wallet.dat file from step 1 into AppData\Roaming\Grim folder
8. Open Grim, let sync, encrypt wallet
Hope this will help.