my wallet's been syncinc for more than a week and still nothing! i've restarted the program over and over again, it's never finished 
You must add nodes taken from this updated list:
https://chainz.cryptoid.info/xspec/#!network
Copy from: node list
Exactly. For a step-by-step guide, see here: https://github.com/bitcoinx2/spectre/wiki/FAQ#6-i-have-zero-connections