For now I am cautiously in the small block camp while vigilantly watching out for any sort of shenanigans.
I have a transaction (1 input, 2 outputs) with an $11 fee sitting waiting to be confirmed for two hours now. Make of that what you will.
those are the craziest and busiest days in bitcoinland ever. a $6k candle on coinbase. hundreds of thousands new bitcoiners every hour, everyone freaking out, sending btc too or from the exchange, sending their coins too or from their hardware wallets, sending some fractions to family because they finally show interest, pure global bitcoin madness.
your complaint sounds like someone complaining about that giant traffic jam that occurs, when there is a hurricane approaching and everyone tries to get away with their car.