Or at the expense of confirmation, do a minimal fee for the TX and it happens when it happens........

When I used sites like luckyb.it, I would send zero fee TX's.  Took a while sometimes, but it was free.   See... back then, you had to go out of your way by a bit to attach a processing fee increase to your TX.


if you look at the whitepaper and satoshi notes;  you will clearly see that the fees were meant to scale....

you know....   exactly the same as the blockchain was meant to be able to scale (blocksize).   Blocksize was a preliminary spam protection implemented at its creation.