yes. the fee its extreamly annoying . but if you smart trader you can use any tricks to cover it.
1. use altcoin as optional . in this case i prefer use ETH or BCH or LTC . its most Popular and Big Volume trade in market.
2. use Custom FEE . but i will take a long time to get confirmation in tx . i did fee $3 for send $80 . confirmation 1 after 2 week almost 3 weeks .
Im running a small business sending bitcoin to a merch and for two weeks I had no business because i sent too low of a fee.
I am not sure whether I have understood your concern correctly. But lets take an hypothetical example. If you need to send $100 to a different address and the wallet is asking for $35 fees, then your total expenditure will be $135 for that transaction. The transaction fees are extra which is added with the transaction. So if you are sending $100 to someone, $135 will be your final expense. I hope this helps!
I had a hard time wording it myself so sorry if u didnt understand. What you said makes helps I just thought there was a loophole.