it can be a daunting task at first but you slowly find out about each other as the time goes by. While you are dating you are with each other for a very short period of time, when you are married you see a lot of each other, and you start seeing things. This isnt bad at all. this is very healthy. you can totally be who you are. its refreshing sometimes to know that someone totally accepts you. my advice for you is to keep at it.