Because no one taught us how to be happy,we all have to learn to be happy from all these pop psychology books ,other people who claim to know the inside scoop of being happy and from sacred texts.

Not only do we feel psychologically victimized much of our lives, but we feel we have to consult others to find out how to find happiness, or choose happiness.

If it is a choice, than I must surely be choosing not to be happy, right?

These are the kind of dilemmas we get into in our minds and yet, there are unexamined beliefs that we may be carrying around about happy people as well.

However,it is possible for us to recondition our  thinking by allowing ourselves  to claim some amount of credit for all we  are doing and for all we are trying to accomplish.

For our hard earned efforts, we can learn to feel good if we consciously let them in every day, every week. 

We can begin to turn around a very strong force of doubt that tells none of our effort is truly worth it.