Let ICO holders automatically send coins to your Ethereum wallet just after receiving your Ethereum
Just like, betrium.co is doing.
KYC is really useless for crypto currency traders.
What you are saying is good buy impossible for no one that has control for the ICO team except themselves. If you want to avoid such thing try to look at first the one that managing the campaign if they are not established member then try to take a look their community and then the white paper. I choose to make it at the last part since good white paper is always depend on the team and the community.