yep u made a good point
but the merit system is also getting abused
people are begging for merit ( directly or indirectly ) like in other forum ppl are asking for up votes and likes
that mean its the way ppl use those system that define if it will be a bless or just another pain in the ass
True, but unlike in other forums the direct or indirect asking for up votes, likes and +reps are tolerated and is not frowned up. In our case here on the forum, there are DT members that can place a tag on you for doing so. Effectively ruining your account even if you have shit tons of merit. If you have a red trust rating with a billion merit, it will not matter since you were already tagged as someone who openly begs for merit.
That is not the case in other forums. You can beg as much as you want for votes, likes and +reps but no one will take action against you unless it would be from the mods or admins. In this forum, the community itself can do it even without the intervention of the mods and admins.